SIL is older than DP by several years (over 30). She has never really like me, we are VERY different. I have always tried to be civil & freely admit I've cocked up a few times.
However, her behaviour around PIL & OH is appalling, to the point where my friends who have met her can not stand her. She is incredibly self centred & attention seeking. She get's "ill" at a speed of knots, especially if she is asked to help i.e clear dinner table, clear Xmas wrapping paper up. She moans incessantly over food, critiques people's cooking, expects entire meals to be changed to suit her various "intolerances", passes comment on calorie content of other peoples meals.
If she is not center of attention or conversation she will rudely interrupt or give wildly varying "opinions" on things, some of which she is very much entitled to, some of which she has no clue about ie someones job role and gets really patronising.
The entire world is against her, men she meets are always drop outs/troublemakers. Her rent is too high, her income too low, her car isn't as good as anybody elses- thus we shouldn't have nice cars until she can afford one. She sponges off her parents frequently, NEVER puts her hand in her pocket/offers to drive to gatherings.
I have recently had to put up with her for several days & have just had enough. Within 5 minutes of arriving she attacked DP over money he owed her- a paltry sum. I gave it to her to shut her up with a "here, now shut up about it". She sat on her arse moaning that our pet was looking at her/near her & she's "allergic". She then complained the restaurant we were going to didn't sound nice, she didn't like the menu. Then the afternoon activity we planned didn't suit her, she'd brought the wrong shoes. Then my OH phone was better than hers. Then she wanted a drink but wanted it making FOR her & when MIL suggested she do it herself- good GOD NO.
I don't know how to deal with her as I am at the limit of tearing her head off. If we are at PIL house I will bite my tongue, but for her to come in to my house & act like a 3 year old is not on. OH is very down after the visit as even he was cringing at her behaviour & it really spoilt the time we had with PIL, who we don't get to see that often. I have said I want nothing more to do with her, but I will NOT stop him from going to visit/going out with his family. She is also not welcome in my house going forward which I don't think is unreasonable.
HELP