I'm not sure if I have a gut feeling or if I've been reading too many cheating bastard threads on here. But..
My husband has a colleague he likes very much. That's fine. We both have opposite sex friends but generally these pre-date our relationship and I feel those are all clearly friendships.
But there's this colleague. I noticed they commented etc a lot on each other. He likes her, he talks about her. I like her too tbh shes my kind of person. But it made me uncomfortable enough that a few weeks ago I told him I felt insecure about this. He was adamant there's nothing going on and was a bit dismissive initially. But after we we talked about it we agreed the last thing we need is an affair/to break up and that this relationship was an unnecessary opening to that. We both think that in LTRs you need to be careful not to create opportunities to stray. Anyway we agreed and he stopped liking and commenting all her stuff and after a bit she followed suit. All fine.
Then yesterday he let's me know he's paid some money to a charity this woman had promoted from our joint account. We tend to inform each other of unusual spending on the joint account. We also each havd our own account and he would easily have had enough money in their for a donation if it was a secret.
His phone is locked. Always. He's very security conscious and always has been. I asked once in the throws of depression to have a look and he unlocked it and handed in over. Now I'm wondering if he anticipated I'd ask and therefore deleted things. He deletes texts.
Argh I don't know where this has come from but I want to have a look through his things and make sure. But that's awful isn't it? Wwyd