Over the last 5 years or so there has been lla downward spiral in my sexlife. I have been rejected a lot. We've been married 10 years (second marriage for both of us). Only my youngest left at home age 21.
DH has been to GP then referred to hospital. His testosterone levels are low but the testosterone replacement therapy has made no difference to his libido. He has had gel and now injections. He doesn't think about sex at all. On the occasions that I have become upset about this he has put in more effort to please me sexually even if we don't have sex, but thus only last for a very short while. He prefers that I don't ask him for sex or try to start anything as he says it puts pressure on him. He says most couples our age don't have sex and makes a joke of the fact that I still need a sex life.Our sex life now is about once a month but even then I feel that he's not really into it.
When I try to talk to him about it he gets defensive and I end up feeling bad. I don't know what to do. I am so unhappy right now and this situation has made me feel less confident about myself and lonely. I feel that life is passing me by. I'm 53. I don't think I can live the rest of my life like this.