Dh and I have been together 9 years and married 6; two dc under 6. Both work part time (although I'm leaving again soon, ftc) and dh works for himself from home. We relocated to his home area when we had kids, my family are scattered and distant.
We're just not getting on at the moment and I can't figure out if it's a young kids phase, or something more serious. Sex is very rare but that side of things has always been an issue (his initially) and we are usually at least affectionate towards each other (though not so much lately).
An important aspect is that dh, although initially reluctant to have kids, has been utterly and completely fulfilled by becoming a father. It's his whole life, well, that and his work which he also loves doing. He's bloody good at parenting and I often feel lacking in comparison. Motherhood has changed me, of course, but I still feel like me and need the adult connection as well as being parents iykwim.
It doesn't help that I've been really stressed at work and it's a very emotionally draining job, not leaving me much for my family. Dh is away currently and I'm not really missing him... :(
I have thought about what it would be like to separate, and it would destroy the kids and definitely dh. And for what?
So, a small kids phase of marriage? Or not? :(