When I was sixteen, in January 1998 (
) my mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer and she died in the April of the same year. My father immediately took a sabbatical from his job to care for her.
Obviously, things changed quite rapidly.
But one memory I do have of that time was that understandably I suppose my parents wanted to spend a lot of time together. So they went on many holidays, days out, day or two away. I was encouraged (ordered) to go on a school trip at Easter and during that time my mum didn't exactly pass away but she became unconscious so the last conversation I had with her was on the phone and I had to go to a school dance that night and I had just been told that in all probability my mum would be dead when I got home.
I know I sound awful but this is coming out years later, that I didn't matter. It was all about my dad losing his wife but nothing about me losing my mum.
Would you do this to your daughter? Or am I being unfair - I think I am being unfair but at the same time I think they were unfair to me?