My husband left the day after Boxing Day. He denied it at first but he is now in a relationship with a woman at work. She is a single mum with a young daughter. I am now a single mum with a son of 2. Sometimes, I can't believe he's gone. I miss him so much it physically hurts. He comes in the house when he picks up our son and I can hardly bear to look at him, it's that painful. Since he left, he's been really vile to me at times (mostly about financial matters) as if it were me that had the affair. I get the impression he wishes I never existed. It was a huge shock when he announced he was leaving - but he admitted to me he'd been thinking about it for 10 months. He pretended all that time and I didn't have a clue. I am not sure how to get over all this. I'm 46 and finding it really hard to accept I'm going to have to start again. I find it difficult to accept that he can so easily be with someone else whereas the thought of being with another man couldn't be further from my mind. Any words of encouragement, especially from ladies who have gone through a similar situation, are welcome! Thank you