When he says....

[Thinkingofausername1]

I'm not the man I used to be, I've given up hope on us.
Has caused an argument for the last few weekends. This time he did it and walked out. I am so upset i can't sleep. Even though he eventually came back and we talked for a while.

does this sound like his head has been turned??

sounds like the relationship is hard work and he isn't vested in the long haul.

It sounds like he is maybe having doubts about your relationship, have you asked him what he means by 'given up hope'?

It's been hard work for a few years. He refuses counselling for us and for him individually. I've had counselling individually last year. He's given up hope on being emotionally available I think hasn't anything to give. I am quite concerned as I don't see myself as a demanding or needy wife. I find him quite needy if honest!

What are you getting out of the relationship?

Well until this evening I thought I had commitment. He has always said what he says he would do and has never let me down. He says he feels messed up. Which is why I'm wondering if there is ow lurking about.