I met up with an old friend recently. I was excited to find he has been living in the same city as me. I'm separated less than a year after over 15 years and not a lot of local friends yet.
We were good friends for about 10 years, lost touch after i had DC and left work. It was lovely to catch up but argghhh.... I do NOT like socialising as a single woman. 40, single, mother, in pubs - is so weird. i was so concious of my behaviour. I even thought I might have given the wrong impression by dressing nicely. Urgh. Im too old for this. Not liking it at all.
I can't judge the situation either. We were good friends once but he knew my H too. I never felt odd about things then. Can i resume a platonic friendship as a 40 year old separated woman? I still feel like part of a couple. It really made me miss my marriage.
He's so lovely but even with my rusty radar it felt like it was different with him. i made it clear I only wanted to be friends. He was chatting about catching up to watch a DVD or have dinner etc. We both have a lot of free time.
I think I only like women friends now. That is very old fashioned isn't it?
Any advice?