This is a bit of a complicated one but would welcome an outside view. I am expecting baby no 2 at beginning of july and am about to start mat leave. First time round I didn't start mat leave early enough, got ill, had baby a bit early etc so this time round have been looking forward to hanging out with no 1 and getting ready for no 2 in a more relaxed way. My father with whom i do not get on and who was a bit of a sh*t when we were growing up is over from the US in about a week and staying until early July with new fiancee (who is our old next door neighbour from when we were growing up). Usually when he visits, I just grin and bear it (he doesn't stay with me and I have 3 siblings to share load) but am feeling like I really don't want to deal with him (he winds me up horribly and invariably says unacceptable things about my mother). to cut to the chase was wondering of it would be ok just to say no to seeing him and if so, how to go about it. My sisters seemed very uneasy about the idea but... any thoughts anyone?