How long is long enough?

[Jaym2017]

If you find yourself out of a marriage, STBXH left in January, loveless marriage for 6 months and on the rocks around November.. so how long is long enough before seen to be ok to move on? Nothing serious just a friend - with benefits if that phrase still exists?

Thanks

As soon as you're comfortable with it I'd say. Life's too short!

Yes that ^. Whose opinion are you so concerned about?

Wby are you worrying about being 'seen' to do what's okay? It's nobody else's business except yours. As PP said.. life is too short..

The next day!

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone.

I wouldn't want a relationship however some adult recreation, would be just what the Dr ordered. Your STBXH will already be doing it. Why shouldn't you?

I was dating the very next day. Fuck 'em. If you gonna move on, move now. Why wait.

Exh was asked to leave in July. Had a fling in August. Met now dh in Nov! Nobody knows what lies ahead!! But the future is where you must look not at whats been left behind. . Go for it!!

I'd move on straight away if I wanted to. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me. I started dating my current boyfriend a week after leaving my ex who I was with for several years. I'm very happy now and glad I made the choices I did

There is no right time. When you feel you can get into a FWB or other relationship is the right time. Just so long as you feel healed and not too fragile. Don't worry about other people - they can mind their own business!

Thanks all :) really wasn't sure what's 'ok'. I have 3 daughters and while I won't be bringing anyone home, it was something I had to consider, what is right for them and for me, and how to balance that out.

I have totally moved on in terms of how I feel, no lingering emotions on what could have been or having ex back etc. I hadn't really thought of him out there 'doing it' but I guess it's possible and very likely, no reason not to and he's not home with the kids!