Rape charges dropped

[Gutteddoesntevencomeclose]

I've nc for obvious reasons. Just need to tell someone & have no-one in rl I can talk to. Exp has been on bail awaiting trial for ages & I got a phone call today to say they won't be proceeding with charges of rape as it's my word against his & there's not enough evidence. I am absolutely devastated. Can't stop crying. Can't say too much as he has stalked me on mn before. There will still be a trial & he'll face numerous other charges but not rape. I feel like everything I went through giving my statement was a complete waste of time.

Despite a lot of lip service, not much has really changed regarding rape, in the final analysis. Rest assured, you will have been believed, just let down by bureaucrosy.

I hope you find some peace.

I believe you.

I believe you

It will remain on his file. Therefore if another woman files a rape charge they will have two very separate cases. Hugs. It is hard and they do believe you.

Im sorry OP. I believe you

OP, you are braver and YOU DID THE RIGHT THING. The police believed you and we know it's true. That is no comfort to you. What should be, is that if he ever tries it again, your allegation will be revisited quicker than you can say 'rapist scumbag.' It could well be your account that helps nail him next time. And, if that day never comes, you will know, KNOW, that it's because you showed him that women won't stand for it, that he won't get away with it, that he can't take what he wants when he wants it. The other charges will get him and you will always know you did all you could. If everyone reported every attack instead of being afraid to do so, afraid of this very situation, then pictures of rapist arseholes would be so much more difficult to paint. You're a bloody hero OP, and don't you forget it.

Great post baker

I'm so sorry OP.

Just because they have decided not to proceed doesn't mean he isn't a rapist. Even if it went to court and he wasn't convicted, it wouldn't mean he isn't a rapist. You did so well to report it, so brave of you. Take good care of yourself

It could well be your account that helps nail him next time.

This.

The same happened to DD1. The officer that called to tell us they wouldn't be proceeding was very clear that he is no longer of previously good character and, if another woman makes the same complaint of rape against him, DD1's case could well go to court at the same time. Her evidence is already recorded so he could be convicted of both crimes.

If nothing else, he knows that and it may stop him raping anyone else.

Sorry you're in the same position. You did the right thing

I believe you.

The statement you made should add substance to help convict him for the other charges he's facing and yes, next time it won't just be his word against hers. You still did the right thing, always remember that.

Be kind to yourself. You're having a tough day, but you can get through it. It's ok to be unhappy by this development, just give yourself time.

I believe you.

I bet you were believed but unfortunately the CPS have to look at it from the POV of what is likely to stick.

It's bloody shit but it doesn't make your reality any less real.

lean on us here x

Baker that is a brilliant post.

It sucks, it really doesn't mean you weren't believed. Mi hope you get the support you need.

I believe you OP. Your bravery could help another woman, so thank you

OP, I am a criminal barrister who sometimes pops up on these threads to see if I can give any information that may be of assistance.

Firstly, you have the option of meeting with the RASSO Unit (Rape and Serious Sexual Offences) at the CPS to understand why the decision was made not to proceed. It will not be quite as straightforward as one person's word against another (most rape allegations are just that) but be prepared for there to be things in what they say that you do not like or agree with.

Secondly, as PP have said it is nothing about anyone not believing you. The standard of proof is high and the CPS have been subject to heavy budget cuts like everyone in the public sector.

Thirdly, making a statement is never pointless. If he does this again, the police can link the case and connect your allegations. You have done everything you could to stop other women going through this. you should be very proud of yourself.

Take care.

Thank you baker

Gutted baker is right, my ex bil was convicted of rape and got five years after he assaulted a subsequent partner to my sil. The police, on receiving a complaint, immediately brought her evidence to cps and trawled former partners and got further evidence to convict him. It is so far from ideal it isn't true but he did get his just deserts.

sorry you are experiencing this.

I believe you, OP

Does anyone know what the charges have to be for him to be put on the sex offenders register? Is that only for rape or for other crimes as well?

I believe you.

I suspect the police and the CPS believe you, and it is not about his word being stronger than yours. It is about the burden of proof being with you not him. That does require your evidence to be stronger.

I believe you and we all echo Bakers words ten hundred fold of that there is no doubt.

I believe you

I believe you xxx