who did you chose, the long term DP/H that you were comfortable together but the spark had died or the new P that gave you excitement but you had no idea how the future will turn

[itsjusti]

On one side you have your long term P/H . Y ou spent 10+ years together, you are comfortable , maybe even have fun together but the spark had died. He loves you but he forgets to show it, you never go out anymore, the sex is a chore, he return form work and spends all night on tv etc etc.But you know that you have a best friend/good man to grow old together. On the other hand, is a new flame, exciting, makes you feel alive again. You know how it is is a new relationship , it all starts great. But you have no idea how the future will be. People who found themselves in that situation , who did you chose and do you regret it?

"just humans than need some love and appreciation"
Either talk it through, sort it out, improve relationship or leave if you are not happy.
Why are you talking about another relationship already? You haven't sorted out your current one. How about doing that before moving on.

Imagine a man posted this. There would be very different answers.

I'd say exactly the same. Makes no difference to my advice.

If you have truly tried with your husband and he refuses to see that you are unhappy then leave.

But don't start a new relationship until you have left.

If you're really lucky, the second might grow to be the first.

But yeah - if the first is truly bad, rather than the mundane, jump ship. Be prepared for being single to be the best option, though - you need to ask whether the spark an excitement is novelty, truly great, or just simply not the same as the old boring thing.

What did you decide?