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Is there any way you can just up and move from one place to another? My other half lives 40 miles away. I have a child, which makes it harder to move. What would you do? Is there some special housing accommodation for those that just want to change areas? Probably isn't but worth the ask?

I have no idea what you mean by special housing accommodation?

You research the cost of living there and identify an area - allowing for a decent school with available places. If it's affordable, you get a job there then rent a flat at the same time giving up your tenancy where you are.

Or if you're in a housing association place, you recognise how valuable that is, and you look for a swap.

If you have your own house, you could let it out whilst you rent in the new area.

Or you could expect your boyfriend to be the one that moves - and consider that if he won't, perhaps he's not worth you moving for.

Or you decide to only move for a serious long term committed relationship, and you just wait it out until you're ready to live together.

Or if your child's father is local to you and properly involved, you stay put and suck it up for the good of their relationship.

So there's a few options for you. But bottom line - there's nothing special about moving, people do it all the time! Be careful it's not you making all the effort though.

Moving costs money and you need to add up how much it will cost you example boxes for storage, cost of van to move everything you own, petrol if you are driving yourself, deposit for new accommodation, some companies charge for a credit reference, some companies do not allow pets, if you are in UK you can look up crime statistics of a postcode if you are unfamiliar with the area. Moving also takes time and effort and organising

Not exactly sure what your question is .
But yes, it is perfectly possible to move - we have moved house several times - and a lot further than 40 miles.

But, for me, the more important issue would be the impact on my child - what stage is he/she in at school? Where is the DDad? What about other family membrs?

40 miles is really not very far if you are 'dating' someone, do you really want to commit yourself and your child to this relationship?

How long have you been together?

Is there a real commitment there before you uproot yourself and your child?

The practical details can be worked out - people move all the time.

40 miles is not so very far apart. Has the relationship moved to a new level which requires this move? It doesn't sound like it, if you are still looking for a separate place for yourself (i.e. you aren't moving in/marrying)

If not moving in together, don't move. 40 miles is nothing, my husband commutes that every day! Given you have a child, presumably in school, consider the possibility that it will be easier on them if it is your partner who moves instead of you.

Is there some special housing accommodation for those that just want to change areas?

I'm assuming by this question that you're in local authority housing. If you want to move to a different area but keep your housing priority, you'd need to look for a council exchange. Speak to your local housing office for advice on this.

You also need to consider whether your DC is in school, will this disrupt them at an important time. Also if DC's dad has contact, you might be ordered to facilitate contact, which would mean driving your DC to their dads for contact visits. Also think very carefully if you like your current area: you could end up somewhere you really dislike.

TBH unless you've been seeing your partner a considerable length of time (1yr plus) I'd be reluctant to uproot everything just to save a short-ish journey for date nights. If you have been seeing them at least a year then I'd expect the conversation to revolve around moving in together.