To cut a very long story short, I have a family member, who, over the years has been very emotionally demanding on me.
She is selfish, drinks too much, is hot-tempered and there is always a drama in her life. I've found her very emotionally draining over the years. Not least when I was suffering from PND and she was on my doorstep wailing every five minutes.
She basically drinks heavily most nights of the week, and then starts a row with her boyfriend of the moment and ends up smashing up his possessions and hers to. It almost always ends in physical violence too. She saw her Father do the same to her Mother, so I've always been incredibly lenient on her, but Friday, I just snapped.
We went out for a girls night. The first time I've been out for about 5 months. She had split up with her boyfriend the night before because they'd had a row and she'd attacked him and kicked one of his internal doors in. She also smashed a glass and smashed up her mobile phone.
The night we go out, she ends up turning on one of our oldest friends and screaming in her face, threatening her and ended up throwing her handbag at her.
When I told her that her behaviour was unacceptable, and that she can't go round doing that to people, she couldn't see what the problem was. I ended up telling her a few home truths and now she's turned it round on me by blocking me on MSN and not contacting me (even if I've contacted her.)
I've told her that I had to say these things for her own good, before it was too late as these aggressive outbursts are all too common. I also told her that I was only being honest because I love her.
I used to think she was like a Sister to me, but I've realised that I've been her Mother figure over the years. There is only 11 months age-gap between us.
I'm just so totally drained. I don't know where else to turn. If I cut contact with her, I effectively cut contact with all my other friends, as they'd be too scared to say anything to her.