sexless marriage/relationship success?

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Can anyone give me a positive experience? Or is it inevitably over after 6 years of no sex?

We've been married for 20 years, and no sex for at least 10, and not much for 12. I tried so hard for him to explain - begged, pleaded, offered to go to counselling, would have been open to try anything, but nothing. It has severely (and I think fatally) damaged our marriage, which to outsiders looks perfect. I am currently making plans to leave - I've been dithering for a few years. Even if I don't find a new partner, at least it will be an open and honest possibility, and I will have my self respect back. Although he is a good man in so many other ways, this has gradually poisoned our relationship - I feel so much hidden bitterness and resentment, and it has severely affected my self confidence, something I'm now working on rebuilding.

Good luck in whatever you decide.