So I was there, trying a lovely sari I have wondering if I would be brave enough to wear it to a wedding in Spain, so I said to DH... wonder how far would your mother go into criticising me for wearing this to your sister's wedding. DH answered she would criticise me whatever I did, and then proceeded to inform me that MIL was very worried that DS (4) was not going to be dressed up to standard because the girls in the groom's side of the family were all going to dress like little princesses and she didn't want DS to be less than them.
My first thought was to tell him that MIL should roll the invitation of the wedding into a roll and stick it right were the sun doesn't shine.
But then...
When I got married, MIL finally revealed herself as the racist she is with her worries about me and my family acting and dressing "up to the standard required for a Spanish wedding". She knew I had got my dress and my family was ready, but that didn't stop her from dragging me into bridal shops to try to convince to get a Spanish dress as mine "might not be suitable", she also pestered me about my mother and sister's dresses being good enough and if my father was going to be well presented.
The day of the wedding came and I have to say the only persons who were not dressing up to standard (any standard) were MIL with an everyday dress and SIL with a white one. I'm really not bothered about people dress choices but after being pestered with the topic so rudely and for so long I couldn't help getting angry about them finding a bit of dust in everyone else's eyes without noticing about the column they had on theirs. Although I have to say that MIL loved my dress when she finally saw it (although complained it didn't suit the flowers she had chosen for the church), and that she regreted not getting a dress as formal as my mother's as she felt she was not well dressed enough. But even when she admited we were fine, the pre wedding process was a true calvary, and even at the reception she didn't stop...she was unhappy about everything and when my parents tryed to ease things up they were so offensively rebuffed that I think neither of us had a good time, we were happy because...we were happy of getting married but we woke the day afterwards thinking that we had made fools of our ourselves which in reality was far from being the case. I so much wish we had never sat her near us or my family.
So, in preparation for the incoming wedding she is already gearing up... I'm only going to it not to rock the boat further, although I wonder if we would finally sink the boat at trying to stop it rocking
Would it be too bad not to bring DS with us? to be honest I would preffer him not to come, he is shy in unfamiliar places and with big new groups of people and, SIL and MIL had decided he is the one to carry the rings (he will panic at the sight of so many eyes looking at him and I'm sure he is just going to freeze and refuse to move ). It has take me ages to convince them that I need to bring DS's food as I can not expect a poor chef being able to deal with all the floritures and requirements of DS's multiple food allergies. So definitively, I would like to spare him the night.
I really hate the thought of going to the wedding, I'm even having nightmares at night, is there any decent way to get out of it? I don't fancy the idea to be up for more criticisism when DH and I are not exactly going through a good time, but surely, is it going along with DS my only option?