I am a single mum to 3 dd's 6, 9 and almost 12. I have been seperated since my youngest was 6 months. My exH does not coparent at all. He sees them once a month on a sunday.
I am absolutely exhausted. EXHAUSTED!!!
It's been tough over the years financially and emotionally but I have always always stayed strong. Always jumped the hurdles and got back on the horse so to speak.
I work and I study. I have to to enable me to pay the mortgage and better our future.
I do everything from take dd's to dance to swimming to clubs and every single parents evening. I organise their birthdays. I take them to parties. I sit and watch every single school play. Along with my mountain of washing and ironing and everything that comes with housework.
I have done it for years and kinda just got used to being busy and tired and a 0 social life but.....
For the last month or so I can not get back on the horse.
My 11 year old is a battle in herself.
She is over weight ( I blame myself as when I separated I threw myself into work/study to hold on to our home etc. My ex financially crippled me)
I was wondering if someone can please please advise me on what to do next?
Nothing I do is good enough.
I have joined a diet club and the gym. All she does is moan when I'm juggling childcare for the others to take her.
she wants to eat pizza and crisps everyday.
She won't try any new foods.
It's not all about the weight. She is never happy.
I took her to the cinema yesterday. She had 2 friends to sleep over Fri. Today she is moaning as I have to food shop and she want to go clothes shopping. She shouts and moans every single day. I have tried one to one with her as it's so difficult spreading your time with each child.
Everything is a battle and I can't cope anymore. As horrible as this sounds she makes my day harder. I feel anxious coming home to her just not knowing what she's going to moan about next. It's not just moaning. No matter how much I try to reason with her she then has a complete break down. Crying like a 2 year old. Shouting ' you don't love me' 'you don't care'
I just don't know how to do this anymore!