o here we go... it's about the woman I found my husband had been messaging... although I was gutted to find this, we have been working on how this came about, and how his phone addiction was affecting us in general... he had become someone completely different over his phone, saying things he would never say and didn't mean.. and he never met her, never wanted anything more than the messages, and while they discussed sex and talked flirtily, they never mutually 'did anything' or talked or fantasised about it together...
anyway - he's gutted, disgusted by her now, and his self.. never found her attractive in real life, just a much lipsticked profile pic, who was willing to bounce back his silly messages... we are working it out..
it's her....
She was vile to me when found out, told me my marriage was over, that she had been telling him no.. (I read the messages, she had been nothing but encouraging, talked as dirty as he did, and she was the one suggesting they meet) she told me to 'deal with that ha ha ha', she was proper nasty
she risked nothing (surprise surprise she's single) and when found out simply had a nasty go at me, shut up shop, blocked us both on social media and off she went
the thing is she is the mother of my daughter's good friend, so I have to communicate with her on some level, and while in some ways I feel I should be bright and breezy, business as normal, you are nothing to me, have no relevance in my life..
But is it normal to be civil with someone who went behind my back like that, and who was so nasty to me?.. I have good reason not to like her, and not to let her off...But if I am anything other than 'normal' with her, will that give her something, feed her that she can still affect me... that I'm still making something of this...
No good woman sets her cap at a friend's husband like that... it is tempting to get back at her in some way, but I'd just be lowering myself to her level... (immac in her shampoo is sounding tempting though lol)
advice please! thanks