My partner of 1 1/2 years has 3 children and i have one daughter. We dont live together, he has a mortgage on a 3 bedroom house, i live in a 2 bed flat. So usually he stays at mine a few nights during the week and has the children at his house of a weekend.
His house is ok, but certainly not homely, he has been there for 7 years and only done the bathroom and kitchen (mainly because his dad does this as a living) the house needs a lot of work. He only has single glazed windows downstairs, and a few double glazed upstairs. The windows have keys to them but when he split with ex he went to his moms and left her and the children in his house until they found somewhere. She lost the keys apparently and now he can't open his bedroom windows. His daughters room window handle has broken and so if pushed will open. Now if this was my house i would want it fixed or preferably pay to get this window and the single glazed replaced with new ones. It has been like this for a year now and he has no intention of getting them fixed, well not that he has mentioned.
He has an old style boiler where he has to turn on the heating to get hot water. He has a decent job and earns around 2000 a month.
He is tight with the heating so when it was winter and i went round he would have a hat on (he is bald lol) and a jumper, which is fair enough but i have a different attitude and if im cold i simply but the heating on.
We were talking the other night on the phone about possible moving in together and how we would deal with bills. I joked saying well the gas bill will certainly be higher and he went silent
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I was talking about wanting to take my daughter to see disney on ice and he said its expensive 
which i know but its hardly something you do everyday. He doesnt do anything like this with his children. I understand he has three but if your not willing to pay to take them places i dont know why you would have three. It makes me weary as i would love another baby but i cant see him doing this kind of thing as a family. He takes them to the cinema sometimes, but even down to parties i dont think they have ever had one apart from a house party with their cousins.
I can't remember the last time we went for a meal, and have never been ro one with the kids. he likes to eat well so never have a takeaway 
if i say i fancy a curry he will say i will make you one
Im worried that if^^ we moved in together i would always have to work because he is so tight with every penny. He ordered an xmas games from eBay at xmas for his son. Was glad because he got a bargain. It got lost in the post and told me he was annoyed because there was only one for sale. When i asked him how much cheaper it was he said £3. The way he went on i thought he was saving like £10-15
I understand he has to be careful with money but surely if your paying for a mortgage you want your house of a decent standard. AIBU/princess or do i have a point? He isnt exactly struggling to get by.