I want to ask DP to leave but not sure how to...

[IdreamofClooney]

I am in a very unhappy relationship and I want out but don;t know how to do it.

DP and I have been together for five years and have a DS who will be two in June.

I love DS to bits and I am so glad we had him (not planned) but I do not feel the same way about DP.

There are various issues but the crux of it is that he is basically a lazy bastard! I am quite a determined and hardworking person and just get on with it. Life is hard sometimes but you just deal with it. DP on the other hand needs a kick up the arse to do anything eg get out of bed in the morning, post a letter, apply for a passport, take the recycling to the bin etc etc. I do not have the energy to nag him all the time - and I hate being a nag!

Things have come to a head recently as after years of nagging he finally applied for a bank account and was turned down. This means that there is no chance of us ever being a normal couple with shared financial responsibilites - I currently hold the mortgage, pay the bills etc etc.

We are living in my one bed flat (top floor) and I AM FED UP! I want a life and a decent home for my child.

I want to ask him to leave as I think I would be better on my own. (he works nights and stays out after work so I am on my own a lot)

Any ideas of how to sort this out in a non acrimonious way?

no advice I'm afraid but bumping for you

Hi

Now if it were me i would sit him down and tell him we need to talk.
I wouldnt lay the blame at his door i would explain that i was feeling very unhappy and didn't feel i was able to be the best mum i could be because of this, that i would prefer to be alone with my child as i feel i would be happier as a single mum than as part of a couple.

I do believe that if blame can be kept out of it and you can take responsibility for your wanting him to leave then there is a good chance it can be amicable, if he doesnt feel like you are blaming him for your unhappiness then he won't be defensive.

Even if you have to use the "i need space" line he may be happy to give you that, especially if he thinks you may let him back in at a later date.

Good luck with things anyway X