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Who's in the wrong?

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user1489592537 · 15/03/2017 15:59

My DD (21 yo) and her boyfriend (23 yo) are currently fighting over something I consider ridiculous. My DD has been on a diet since January after she had bumped into a male friend who had told he she had gotten 'heavy'. She has currently lost 1stone and a half but was feeling low and as if she hasn't changed at all - it's probably worth mentioning she has struggled with body dysmorphia for most of her life. Today she read an article stating that she should face her trigger to start the body issues in order to move on and feel happy with her progress. So she sent the male friend a message asking for his honest opinion on her weight and weight loss alongside a fully dressed photo of herself, they then had a platonic conversation in which the boy said he things she has lost weight and then moved on to general chit chat. My DDs boyfriend then came home and she told him about the interaction saying that she was feeling more positive about her weight. Her boyfriend became very cross about the photo she had sent (which admittedly did have a lot of cleavage on show but she is a large busted girl) and stormed out the house. He is now not speaking to her and is saying she's hurt him terribly. She has apologised and said it was innocent, she didn't mean to hurt him. What are your opinions on this situation and how can I help my DD as she is distraught at the thought of hurting her partner?

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HolidayArmidillo · 16/03/2017 04:18

I haven't rtft, just OP's posts. I wouldn't be happy if I'd found out that my DP had sent a photo of himself to a girl to be "judged"

Would your daughter be as understanding?

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