we have an evening to ourselves BUT ????

[romanceless]

we have been at each others throats for a few months now and its only getting worse . the thing is we ned a night out to give us a break but we dont know what to do ; sit in a bar and talk ?? may be dont need an intense night, so go to cinema and see a funny film shrek 2 or soemthing romantic to help the mood Troy , ony problem is they show me what we dont have. Or just go and have a meal ??

MIL is coming in an hour to baby sit , yeh for MIL , but we just dont know what to do?????? as Im not sure Im in the mood for sitting and talking or is that what we need??

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So you think the cinema is just escaping the issues ??

God, what a missed opportunity, romanceless. I'd avoid anything with a 'let's-sit-down-and-talk' opportunity, but that's only 'cos I know DH would do anything but that, in that situation IYKWIM. Skittles? Something where other people get involved? Cinema seems good otherwise

thanx for responding quickly

I suppose we need both, carla are you saying we shoudnt sit and talk ??

Ive been given orders to go and get ready but I will check on advice in a short while. Thanx again all for helping me I may revela a bit more later in week as things have been hard between us. Ive had to remain anon for his sake & mine I suppose.

Can you agree that certain subjects are banned from the conversation? The ones that normally cause the arguments?

Do you go out much on your own together, without your children at all??

Not often really not for ages, its always been with groups of friends. So we havent done this FOR MONTHS!!!

Not sure Ive suggested early cinema in finchely & then drink & dinner in Muswil HIll, but hes just grunted and not made a decision for a change. GGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRR

thing is janster we argue about everything at the mo!!!

lol beetroot

Hope you have a nice time whatever you decide to do, and hope you sort it out too.

well we went to o thai cafe in Crouch End and then Ha ha bar in Muswill Hill, were I felt really old and as a mummy surrrounded by all these young off the wall Uni types, I really felt my age!!!!I even bumped into one of those weirdos that I knew at Uni 10yrs ago!!

On a serious not though , our relationship is ijn a bit of a mess , so despite the evening being quite nice and DH trying to make an effort , this evening at home things have deteriotated to the point were I cant bare to talk to him or lay in the same bed and have retreated down here for a chat with you girls.

No one wanna talk with me?????

MAYBE A GOOD IDEA TO START UP A NEW THREAD IN CHAT, oops caps off, know where your coming from though, why did the night deteriate?

evening was fine until 10:00 and then opened Amex bill and came storming upstairs and accused me of spending too much, which was really upsetting as we went out the other day and he maxed it with all sorts of stuff for himself. it just added to my feeling that he doesnt really care about me and everything he does is justified and everythign I do is because Im revolting materialisitc spoilt person. sorry a tap was opened there.

Opening bills on a night to yourself isnt a good idea! Remind him of that next time! Really you should open a thread in chat and im sure folks will be about.

I didnt explain that very well did I Charliecat. It was the next night with the bill opening, and DH opened the bill , whilst I WAS upstairs relaxing,(ha ha v short lived moment), until dh came storming in saying "I'm taking that card away from you, yada yada yada" barrage.

Had to go to bed, Charliicat, rather than start another thread as Id just drunk toooo much Glayva and couldnt chat no more!!