Could this actually NOT be red flags?

[drowningindaffodils]

Hello everyone!
Haven't been on here for ages!
I've been online dating unsuccessfully for 8 months. Have met a couple of guys who I immediately knew weren't right.
Anyways, was going to knock it all on the head when me & this guy started chatting. Met up without many texts (find by me) drank A LOT & had a great night (FUN) - felt a connection & he said he wanted to take me for dinner the following week.
He took me to the most expensive restaurant I've ever been to & proceeded to tell me he doesn't want to date anyone else & that he really really likes me. Then I saw him on Friday & he bought me a massive bunch of flowers, bottle of wine & told me he wants to see where 'this goes' and told me I'm beautiful, strong & awesome.
I should say at this stage I have been in many an EA relationship, have been cheated on and have always been the one to do the chasing.
I have never been spoken to this way so early on & am torn between enjoying the attention & being a bit
Is it weird to have someone be so vocal & complimentary so early in (3 dates!?)
What would you think?
I've learned lots from my awful previous relationships & am very much not rushing into anything & taking a back seat here...
But it's kinda intriguing behaviour...

He doesn't know you yet. I'd be worried that he loves the idea of you (projecting onto you his idea of the perfect person) rather than the real you.

I'd allow time for you to get to know each other and proceed with caution!

I would run.
I have just left a relationship that started just like this. The first 6 months were wonderful. He spoilt me, told me how wonderful I was etc.
As soon as we moved in together it changed. Every now and again a glimpse of the original man came out but over the years it happened less and less. I realised that the original man was not him, but just an act he put on. He was emotionally manipulative, sexually coercive and and abusive bully.

This man does know you well enough, I would be very wary.

*doesn't

Maybe you are just awesome, beautiful and fantastic!

I wouldn't be overly worried and just enjoy. You sound sensible enough to not rush into anything. Just see how it all goes for now.

Stay alert but I don't see the issue right now

To counter the post above, my bf of 4 years was similar and I was similar to you - used to assholes and found it quite incredulous

He hasn't changed from how he was on that first date.

Definitely not rushing into anything.
No time or head space for all that...
Interesting to hear such a mix of stories as always. I love Mumsnet. 👍

Just go with it op, he sounds like a bloody nice guy!

Mine was a twunt the minute I met him to the minute he left me, if I threatened to leave he'd suddenly be nice! Well it didn't last long!

So trust me, you wouldn't have long to wait if he's a top knob deep down, shit people can't help themselves trust me!

It's not unusual if he likes going to nice places and he feels he met someone who he feels he can settle with.

I just think there's no point overthinking it. Enjoy yourself and be careful.

See how things goes and if he involves u in his life i.e. Meet his friends and allow u to get to know him.