I have name changed.
My DH and I have been married for 4 years. When we got together I was clear that I detest smoking and could not be in a relationship with a partner that smoked. He told me he had given up 2 years prior to meeting me. His family smoke and have continued to do so.
The last 4 years have been stressful with various life events. Each time he has felt stressed he has smoked 2 or 3 cigarettes. A few times he has lied about it but the smell gave it away. Four years on and he still smoked around 10 times a year with his family actively encouraging him to do it.
I've reached breaking point. The reasons being that I detest it. But more importantly, he has had 3 mini strokes. His health is delicate following a terrible accident. He has asthma from smoke inhalation caused by the accident. I'm terrified about his health and he has been told by doctors that smoking can lead to another stroke. The previous strikes have affected his working memory and his temperament.
I love the very bones of this man. However, he is breaking my heart by smoking and placing his health at great risk.
We have cried together about it. He has promised me he will never do it again (but still does) and we have talked about it endlessly. He still does it.
What do I do? It is beginning to seriously affect the love I feel for him.