Can an unhappy marriage make you ill

[whatisforteamum]

Been together 30 yrs with 2 dcs.Things haven't been good for about 14 yrs however keeping busy at our jobs and having different days off plus school runs and general activities has left little time for a social life or friends.d d left home last yr so the house is quoted however working hard I didn't feel the empty nest syndrome until now.
The last six weeks I've been feeling unwell.Sick,dizzy no energy and no n terest in anything much.I stopped driving so my independence is lost and have become am ost phobic about the short bus ride to work.
Blood tests and ECG are fine so I'm resting for a week.
Then it occurred to I have no one to turn to.my dh is a distant angry man who often sulks or creates an atmosphere which I can escape through work.
My df has helped me twice bless him even though he is terminally I'll.
I literally find this GS hard that previously I did automatically. Driving.Walking etc.I was really busy.I know viruses can lay you low but can being ignored and snapped at and living with a distant person make you feel a lack of self confidence too.Has anyone felt like this.I have considered peri menopause too.

[lizzyj4]

Chronic stress can definitely lower your immune system, so you're more vulnerable to any viruses going around, and can also cause physical symptoms (or exacerbate existing health problems). Over the last few years of my marriage I was constantly walking on eggshells around my exh and everything revolved around his moods. I had a stomach ulcer, very bad IBS, and seemed to catch every virus and tummy bug going. Much better now, four years down the line, but I firmly believe that if we'd stayed together my health would have carried on getting worse. Your body is trying to tell you that something needs to change.

[Mittensonastring]

I'm with you here, I'm instigating a break up though he is so resistant over the last two months. It's making me feel ill. There is no third party and basically no way out quick.

When trying to repair it as that's what we are/we're attempting he has said all the times I got upset about things I bought up he just thought I was being difficult. Things escalated last week when he had an argument with our son who is sitting his mock gcse's this week. He just didn't believe our sons distress and said so it all clicked then, I have had the scales fall from my eyes and feel lack of affection and dismissing my concerns many times is some sort of chronic low level emotional abuse. All the times I was upset and actually told him he just didn't believe me, I feel sick to the stomach, tearful, totally empty and joyless.

[whatisforteamum]

Mittenonastring stay strong.I know how it feels to be ignored!! tbh I haven't had time for DH as I work shifts so he mostly has to do things alone.Now I wish I had made friends as I only have my male work colleagues who are half my age and single.In thinking the !back of affection makes a difference to self esteem.

I have no idea where this lack of confidence and fear of trave!long has come from apart from having to be strong for DM and df and dh with their life threatening illnesses :(