Hi,
Background - we divorced last year after a rock seven year marriage. He's been serving time since 2015 for fraud. We have two children - 6 and 4.
He now has day release and we last saw him at Christmas. Next visit due in a couple of weeks.
A few days ago my mum told me my son (6) tried to show her his "bits" and pull the skin back "like daddy's" (he's curcumsized). My mum got the impression from the detail my son gave that he'd been given some sort of "demonstration" of this by my ex h.
I sent a text to ex h saying I don't know what had happened but going by the detail my son knew he'd clearly showed him his "bits" in detail. I said this was completely inappropriate, unecessary and poor judgment.
His reply concerns me.
He said in summary that my son has known all about his circumsivion "since he was 2" - what?! Why firstly, and how?! What possible interest would a two year old have?
He said "you'll remember at Christmas when you were chatting to X and D'S was asking about the difference between boy/girl bits" - no I don't remember, but he always had a habit of telling me what I remember...
Then he said "...and I took them to the toilet". What?! To show him his???? There is no further explanation.
He then says he'll "be more discreet" and "hope that works for me". Hope it works for me?! What is that supposed to mean??
Am I overreacting???? Does this sound more sinister than it first appears to anyone???
You have to consider the context of ex h bring a manipulative (proven) liar. He is a narcissist of the highest order with a front like you wouldn't believe. I have finally finally broken free of his vice grip but I need a second opinion on this one.
If it helps, my mum is v v concerned although struggling to believe it is anything more sinister than shockingly poor judgment.