Who else is GLAD a relationship/marriage has ended? Celebration thread

[despicableshe]

Hello all, haven't been on MN for a long time now. Firstly, I want to thank those who contributed to my earlier threads and gave me pertinent advice and though he's still a PITA (we have kids so still have to communicate), I have day-to-day peace without walking on eggshells.

So I'd like to hear from others on here who have divorced/left relationships and are now thriving as a result. I'd like to give hope to others that you don't have to remain in miserable shituations and that if things don't work out in the relationship, it really is okay

Nearly 5 years for me.....gotta give a WHOOP WHOOP!

Oh I just have to post here!! Yes! yes! YES!!! (Just wish all the mess was sorted out by now too... I'll get there.... Can't wait for Decree absolut!!!)

I am currently star fishing in bed knowing that he won't come in drunk at some random hour, I won't be pestered for sex and I won't listen to snoring.

I can play my cheesy tunes full blast on a morning when getting ready. I can have my pick of what goes on TV and I don't have to listen to the two hour Skype conversations with him and his parents and it feeling like Big Brother is watching me.

I have also spent around four hours in the garden this weekend tackling the mammoth task of removing the old grass and weeds, rotating fb soil and getting it ready for new turf- I did that, not him, but me, for my kids and I and it feels bloody well good!

Me too!

Stayed far longer than I should've to a miserable, emotionally abusive, addicted narcissist. Of course he didn't start off like that but 13 years on, he was unrecognisable from the man who promised to always look after me and make me happy.

This list of things I can do freely now is huge- well the list of things he disapproved of and therefore I didn't- and at times I look in wonderment at how different/peaceful my life is. No more shouting or aggressive silences, walking on eggshells, crazy moods and inexplicable rages. And being told that it was me that was the problem!
If I remain single and lived in a garden shed for the rest of my life it would still be preferable to going back to the insanity that was my marriage.

Well Im doing really well after the breakdown of a marriage of 36 years when we separated. Am I going to celebrate it? No, because how can you celebrate such an awful mess? Will I ever say to my children and grandchildren thank god Im rid of him? The answer is a resounding no. We were good for a very long time then something happened and thats it - Im happy, Im doing well, but I'll never regret loving my husband and spending my life with him.

Me. Six years free from an empty shell of a narc asshole. I am happy every single day.

Xxx