keep getting wound up over pil's

[greenfinch]

my pil are difficult people and last year was quite tough not only adjusting & getting used to having a baby i have to say there were a few times they were supportive but on the whole they were quite difficult to cope with.
Around the time of our last holiday we had in the summer i was wound up a bit not only with pil but also my mothers frequent visits, i kept getting thrush due to the stress.
we are going on holiday soon and this week i have been getting wound up again thinking of my pil and how difficult they have been and trying to forsee things that they will/try to do in the future.
how can i put it all behind me and just switch off from it all and stop thinking of scenarios, it's driving me nuts!(could it be pmt, due to have period around 8/9 days time?)

I do this !!!!!! I think up scenarios of things they might do so I can be prepared. I'm glad I'm not the only one.

I do it too. I find my in-laws very difficult people and I have to get mentally prepared for every occasion we spend time together.....and it always takes me quite a bit of time to get over seeing them too! You have my sympathies...

Same here - I remember getting uptight 4 months in advance of going to visit mil (abroad). Was justified in one sense but you know what? Just can't be bothered now. I am polite but assertive so they've nothing to go on. Amazing what trouble a baby can bring with parents. My mil tends to cry and say how much she misses ds. Very manipulative and she thinks my response is to dash on a plane to go see her or worse dash on a plane to go get her. I don't even respond.

Enjoy your holiday (I assume you're not going with pils?!).
xxx

thanks for your messages, i'm so glad i'm not the only one!
No, certainly not going on holiday with them, they have suggested going to london but dh is well aware of my feelings on that!
i also find after i've seen them it takes a while to get over it, i so much enjoy that moment of driving away down their drive as we leave or closing the door on them when they leave our house, sheer bliss!