Called me his ex's name TWICE

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As you can guess by the title my boyfriend callrd me his ex's name TWICE. We have been together 8 months now and he broke up with her 2 years ago. The first time I put it down to an accident. This time I'm a little upset about it. Again he said it was an avcudent. I told him I was upset he apologised and obviously I was still upset. He's told me I'm oversensitive and need to get over it. I know I might be reading too much into it but I can't help but to be upset that he called me another woman's name. Should I just get over it or am I right to be upset?! :( everything was going so well until this. It's making me question the relationship. :/

When calling somebody, my mum would frequently say the wrong name. "Sarah... er, Claire..., er... er.... Jenny!*" It wasn't unusual for her to go through the whole family before saying the name of the person she wanted.

*not real names, yadda yadda....

This is really easy to do. I have done it to someone I was totally head over heels for about someone I went on literally two dates with then ditched. Absolutely meaningless. Probably some kind of neutron pathway hangover.

Neuron **

Hi, I've been with my bf (sorry don't know all the abbreviations) for 6 months and in the last 4 days he has called me his ex name twice. First time was when he was asking to sort a drink for his little girl the 2nd time making dinner with friends and started saying name and I caught it. We are due to move in together and treats me like a princess etc they were together 7 years which is why his said it's slipped the 2nd time. Should I be worried or could it just be cause moving in together etc is triggering things in his mind?

TBH I think this kind of thing is OK. I've called a colleague my dog's name before. Slip of the tongue, not necessarily meaningful. When you say or have said a name a lot it becomes habit.

Sounds like a glitch in the matrix.
I understand why you felt upset. Now you can carry on with your lives and if anything more crops up you can deal with as it happens

It's all very well to say we all do it. Which we do, and I have done too.

But was he sorry? Did he realise it upset you?

I've called DH by my XH's name several times... when I've been cross or frustrated (not necessarily with DH). I think that says it all about my relationship with XH!

DH occasionally does this. We've been married 16 years, he divorced exW in 1991 acrimoniously so there is no threat. He also gets the kids names mixed up.

My DH has done this once and I've nearly done it to him but just caught myself. Previous relationships 27 and 23 years respectively so didn't bother me. He was "I can't believe I said that!". I just laughed. It's habit after using a name repeatedly for so long.

Mind you, his DD, my DD and myself first names all start with the same initial so he muddles them up too sometimes.

It doesn't sound like you have anything to worry about, it's like calling the teacher Mum!

This is why when I am in a relationship I call them Darling, Sweetheart etc, less chance of a slip up

7 years in with an ex who I hope I never see again and I still do it occasionally.

I don't sweat this kind of stuff, I have done it and even said an ex's name while waking from sleeping.

I used to accidently say my brothers name to a dp and he frequently calls his wife my name and vice versa. Find it slightly amusing but reckon like someone said it's just a glitch, the amount of names of people we know could be a lot and a slip up is minimal. Also it might just be there is something common or assiocated with two different people and that's why you can mix them up.

Apparently it's to do with the way memories are stored in the brain and it's totally natural and doesn't mean anything.

I often call my husband by my dogs name.

One of my male friends always used to joke "that's what "darling" is for....!". If he has apologised, I'd leave it at that (although I can understand it would annoy you!)

I used to do this with my recent Ex and I split with ExH 8 years ago.
Don't read too much into it.
It probably means nothing.
If it's in the throws of sex then yes, you can be pissed off about that.

I used to get all my children's names muddled up frequently. Now I refer to them as sweetie or poppet (works well, but perhaps I need an alternative for the very tall rugby playing ones )

Often we confuse names when we are experiencing something that has habitually been experienced with someone else. People will often say when they argue they call their DP by their xDP name for example - and it's because they were habitually arguing with xDP. It's often when doing something ordinary (like getting a drink from the fridge and asking if he/she wants one by name - something you never do when living alone, and brain goes into autopilot and says - I've done this before and the words are - 'Dya want one too Jen?' Except now you are living with Chloe.
So I think the only concern would be when intimately expressing sincere love.
I confuse my daughters names all.the.time!! I love them both equally - I feel toward them the same. They are very close in age and I respond to them equally. So I can barely start a cross rebuke without saying 'name D1 - I mean name D2 - stop that! And my attempt to be stern is diffused with their laughter!
It's really not worth getting upset about. If it's said in an argument - it's his/her go to auto feeling about their ex.
Just one final caution - if it happens very often, in lots of settings...they are still seeing each other!

I call my husband my sons name and vice Versa, I really wouldn't read anything into this OP, it's habit!!