I'm leaving my partner and currently still living in the same house. My teen daughter and I have suffered emotional & verbal abuse and I have been physically abused too. I am buying a new house for me and my daughter & hopefully will be in by the end of the month or very early next. He has some money from the separation (not enough to buy a house, but enough for rent for at least a year). He says the reason for his behaviour is because of the way he was treated as a child and although in the past his default would have been anger and abuse, now there are just tears and fear. He wants to move with us until he has sorted himself out. He needs to find a job and somewhere more permanent to rent. He says he feels disappointed that I can't see that he has changed (he is going to therapy) and has been much more helpful at home. I feel awful that I am 'taking' his daughter away from him (even though she has begged to move away from him). They are getting on better now. And wonder if I am just giving up on the relationship. Though I have been unhappy for years. I know what all the comments are going to be. I just feel like I am losing my mind and can't think clearly and think I am behaving really selfishly.