How often do you have sex?

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I'm in my late twenties, have DCS and very little sex with DH. How much should I be settling for? We have it around once every 3 weeks. We have it and then I crave it more; DH seems then to be satisfied, for sometimes a whole month! I feel I'm young and fertile, I want to develop sexually and express it more, I really enjoy sex and the closeness it creates between DH and I. What should I expect here? How often do you do it and how old are you?

I don't think what other people do is relevant. You need to talk to your DH

DP is 39. I'm a bit older. Together 10 years. Some sexual contact every day. Very sexual/physical relationship. It's how I like it. I hate physical coldness in a partner.

Once every three weeks would kill me off. I agree with what you say about wanting to develop sexually. I don't believe it should be that you have less sex as you are longer together. I love the fact that we are so in tune after 10 years that we literally only have to lie next to each other - just even with our toes touching - and we are in the zone. Just hearing his breathing is delicious. Just feeling the warmth of him.

So yes, I think you should try to do something to work on this. Have you tried just taking the initiative? How does he react? If he then is happy to go ahead, then maybe just take the initiative more? Every day?

We're both in our forties, been together over 20 years with 3 young dcs and aim to do it every day, sometimes if we're very lucky manage twice a day.

We are 30 three kids two under 5 and average 2-3 times a week.

We're both mid-30s, no DCs but both in full-on, long hours, physically demanding jobs. We're usually between 3 and 5 times a week, I do a night on emergency/out of hours call followed by a full day afterwards every 10 days which wipes me out for those couple of days. I give him at least a couple of bjs every week as well as he loves them and I like doing them. He would happily reciprocate but I've never been all that keen (regardless of who's doing it), I'm just more of a giver when it comes to oral!

Mid 50s, married 30 years.Never.

Roughly once a week, can be longer between but not normally more than about two weeks.

In my twenties and DP early 30s, used to be a lot more and tends to be at the weekend now

We don't live together yet, he stays 4/5 days a week at the moment and usually each morning and night. Depends on DD (almost 5 months) we might manage more if we get chance or it can be less if she's not in a sleeping mood.
The last few nights she's had perfect timing of waking up, just before her daddy finishes!

We have pretty well matched sex drives and both initiate 50/50, maybe him a bit more.

I can't put a number on it probably but you do it far less than a lot of other couples in this bracket. I don't think a quick few minutes take that much energy even if you have young DC(I have). Benefits far outweigh everything else.

With ex, after 20 years of marriage, highly satisfying sex maybe twice a week until the OWs came along. Then had long - distance thing with a guy who liked sensuality and got me really turned on but didn't have much of a sex drive - a few times a month, with a downward tendency. Now since Xmas with a man who can keep going for hours on end in all kinds of positions but we can only meet up a couple of times a week. Enjoying the new experience but couldn't do such long sessions much more often tbh. Would like a combination of all three men ideally!

With ex, almost never (he turned out to be gay). We have 2 kids. Been with BF about 2 years and I spend 4 nights a week with him. Have sex 4-6 times - every night, and some mornings, plus 'rummaging' (he has magic fingers, and is cough very generous). I never really enjoyed sex with my ex despite my best efforts, and it was never rampant, but I really, really, enjoy it with the BF, simply because it is just so good. We're both late 40s.

Early 40's, 2 kids 4&7 - 3 times since end Oct 2016. Yawn.