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DP embarrases me

63 replies

mousetrap07 · 02/03/2007 14:07

I feel a bit guilty writing this but not sure what else to do.
I've been with my DP for around 2 years, when we met he wasn't exactly a "trendy" type but nothing too out of the ordinary. We lived at opposite ends of the city so he used to come and see me as he had the car, One day I suprised him and turned up at his house and he was wearing pink slippers, I made a joke about it and he said they were his mums but he found them comfortable so asked for them when she wanted rid , I said "does it not bother you that they're womens?" and he said "no, why should it matter?" I still found it funny but left it there.

Anyway on the odd occasion that I went I noticed more and more that he had strange habits when it came to clothes, he would wear a really feminine apron when cooking, the slippers and one time he even had a womans cardigan on saying it was his ex's but it was comfortable .

Anyway all this was last year, in the end we moved in together, firstly into my house and then we rented a place together, I asked him to get rid of the slippers and he said I was being ridiculous, he did however agree to get rid of the cardigan when I made out it upset me being his ex's!

Thing is my family quite often come down and I've just found out that they've all been having a good laugh about him taking the piss out of the slippers etc and last week a friend of mine brought my son his ps2 games back and saw DP's slippers and ran into the kitchen laughing asking me if he'd put them on as a joke.

We're having a group of friends over tomorow night and I'm dreading it as DP said he will cook, this means the apron AND the slippers will make an appearance and to make matters worse there will be male friends here tomorow too who are more likely to take the piss.

I know it sounds awful but it really embarrasses me, it winds me up that he doesn't care about people laughing and doesnt care about me feeling uncomfortable. Am I out of order to ask him to bin them? I've offered to buy him new ones but he says he likes the ones he has, stupid as it sounds it's really starting to make me feel bitter.

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expatinscotland · 02/03/2007 14:26

Quite, Scottish.

I even asked my DH once, 'Would you wear Birkenstocks?'

He said, 'Would I f*&k!'

The man won't even use a brolly - just a cap of some sort.

ScottishThistle · 02/03/2007 14:28

Too true expat!

My 31yo Brother is only just able to manage any kind of sandal when abroad & wouldn't be seen dead in them at home no matter how much I tell him "It's cool in London to wear sandals!"

expatinscotland · 02/03/2007 14:29

London may as well be on the moon for all DH cares, Scottish.

He'd just say something like, 'So? I'm no' in London and I dunny gie a toss about London.'

SSShakeTheChi · 02/03/2007 14:30

cap these are those huge, over-sized wooden clogs they sell to tourists in Holland. These are not some discrete slip on things you might wear in the garden.

Does he WANT people to laugh at him? Sounds like he's a bit of a character

expatinscotland · 02/03/2007 14:31

I saw a bloke this afternoon wearing a lazy purple shawl over his normal top, though.

Yes, people were laughing.

expatinscotland · 02/03/2007 14:31

lacy! Sorry.

ComeOVeneer · 02/03/2007 14:34

Mose traps, clogs, I definately see a pattern here. Friday afternoons can be rather boring can't they?

ScottishThistle · 02/03/2007 14:34

Yeah my Brother's answer "Aye right Sis, like a give a shit aboot what they f$in Londen queers wear!"

He does use moisturiser though!

ScottishThistle · 02/03/2007 14:35

If it's a joke, it's hilarious!

I almost wet myself re the clogs!

ComeOVeneer · 02/03/2007 14:35

Mouse traps

ThisFrogIsGonnaWhoopYouAss · 02/03/2007 14:35

Mousetrap07 - do you think you could take a picture of the slippers and the clogs and post them here - it would help our decision making process.......

pinkslippers · 02/03/2007 14:36

hehehehe mouse

ScottishThistle · 02/03/2007 14:39

PMSL pinkslippers!

ThisFrogIsGonnaWhoopYouAss · 02/03/2007 14:39

were they like this?

pinkslippers · 02/03/2007 14:39

couldn't find it in english though, lol.

pinkslippers · 02/03/2007 14:40

You could make a birdhouse out of them??

SSShakeTheChi · 02/03/2007 14:41

I hope he has the cowprint ones

Blu · 02/03/2007 14:41

Does he wear the clogs with a dutch cap, Mousetrap?

ScottishThistle · 02/03/2007 14:42

Does he wear short troos & laden hosen???

Blu · 02/03/2007 14:46

We're here to help, Mousetrap.
It must be very very hard for you.
Is his over all look more Edna Everidge or Norah Batty, would you say?

Cod may be able to advise something more stylish for him.

Cappuccino · 02/03/2007 14:48

there used to be a very sexy restauranteur locally who I had a bit of a thing for

till I saw him in a turquoise padded kagoul with a furry hood

then all those feelings just went away

ScottishThistle · 02/03/2007 14:50

Cappucino, isn't it weird how clothes take away good looks!

I look at a guys face then his feet!

SSShakeTheChi · 02/03/2007 14:51

Met this man (wonderful dancer) at a tango club, got along great. Then met him for a drink somewhere and he was wearing PURPLE SHOES!

End of

hoolagirl · 02/03/2007 14:53

Whats the big deal?
Don't get why you would be embarassed.
I wouldn't really care what my family thought and they prob wouldn't mention it either, apart from a 'like your slippers' joke and then it would be forgotten.
DP has been known to don my pink fluffy slippers in times of need.

ScottishThistle · 02/03/2007 14:54

Hoolagirl, what about clogs???