Will it get better once he goes back to work?! Moody DP

[julezboo]

Hey all

Lots of factors to consider, we have a new baby (2 weeks old), hes been off work for 2 weeks, hes also quitting smoking. And I am trying not to take to heart his moodiness but he is being an idiot towards me.

For eg this morning I got up with the baby, took him downstairs and got us packed for our weekend to visit family. Started making pack lunch for journey, also got the baby dressed, got DS's clothes ready for him and DP's clothes ready for him, whilst DP spent an hour and a half in the bath. When he comes down I asked him to nip back upstairs and get the kettle so I could warm babys bottle ready for his feed. It turned into a great big row. Apparently I was bullying him when I could of easily just gone up and got it myself!! .

I expected things to change after the baby came along (its his first) but tbh I didnt expect it to change this much, the past few days hes been horrible towards me. He looks at me like he hates me and its breaking my heart. The first week it was lovely, He showed me how greatful he was for what I went through to bring our baby into the world. This week is a different story all together. Hes back at work next week so Im hoping things will get better and its just because "we are under each others feet" too much.

Usually we dont argue, we get on great. Baby is nly waking up once in the night around 2am (hes usually still up then anyway). So cant be lack of sleep tbh. I love him so much and its getting me down.

Oh honey.

You two need to talk. You shouldn't be feeling like this. A new baby turns everything upside down and shakes relationships about. Communication is key. You need to feel loved.

Try and have a talk with him.

I'm sure it will get better when he's back at work, it is a shock to a relationship to be together 24/7 when you're used to a break (work etc).

Stay strong, keep going. Talk.

XXX

Hi

Congratulations on new baby

Now for your DH, it could be a touch of jealousy with a pinch of insecurity.
He could be feeling a little jealous of the attention the baby is getting from you and also a little insecure at the fact you are coping so well, taking care of everything in a way he is unable.

Men are strange creatures at the best of times
try not to take it to heart and dont let his sulks spoil what is a magical time.
Try not to react to his moods, just ignore them, he will soon come round.

Have a lovely weekend!

Hello, aaah I know how you must feel. MY DH went wierdy too when ours was born. I just think I underestimated how the enormous change affected my DH. He'll be fine once he's back at work and things are more "routine" like again. I think sometimes the men get slightly sad as they feel like they're geting less attention than usual - silly boys.

If you can at some point try and get someone to look after the babe for an hour or two and go and have a nice lunch together and make him chat to you about his worries,,,,it'll all come pouring out and you'll feel way better.

The first few weeks with a babe are really hard for a load of reasons. It'll all be alright though

love xxx

Thanks ladies,

We are at my mums now, he has told me he loves me still Mum is having the kids her her room tonight to give us some time together

I didnt really have all this with my first cos his arse of a dad walked out on us before he was home from hospital so its all kinda new to me to have to share things iykwm?!