anger management

[whiffywarthog]

any tips? and please don't tell me to count from 1 to 10. that just gives me more time to hoik up more ammunition.

like getting snappy. as in 'i've told you a million fecking times where the bog roll is. you've only lived here for 7 years', or 'dd always has a bath before bed, ever since she's been born'. or this prize incident: dh leaves cereal bowl and glass on low table. i say 'dd will be able to reach cereal bowl'. dh says 'yes yes of course i know that. i was going to move it'. i debate whether to mention the glass but think i might be pushing it too far. come down later, there's water everywhere. dh : 'you didn't say i should move the glass'. wtf??? am i the only adult???

this is constant. i have to calm down and let it wash over me. zen. don't want to become fishwifey and sarky. want to be nice bubbly me again.

help me!

HI, I am a total bitch, fishwifey type person all the time. My DH can't do any of the parenting type stuff and I feel like I have two kids that need to be organised.

You sound like you need a bit of a break, take a night off and go out with a girlfriend for a really good moan and a big glass of wine. TAke a step back and think about it, is it really that big a deal if you have to wipe up a bit of water? No kid ever died from not having a bath either. Chill girl! .

Like you I feel I am going to go mad if nothing changes soon. I don't think its all you. My DH needs to get his act together. What about setting a task list that you both agree together, ie you do the bath or feeding and he does x y and z (means that you give him a nice bit of rope so he can hang himself with it). Let him get on with it and don't comment and just be happy that he is doing his bit (even if its not half as good as how you would do it.) HOpe you feel more relaxed soon and don't worry, we all get mad sometimes.

unfortunately men have inability to see what needs to be done on their own. i am constantly at my dh for picking things up and setting priorities for tasks, he is slowly learning, but it is hard. especially the always asking you where stuff is. now i just say i don't know, until he finds it himself . last sunday he made me a bacon sarnie but it was dry as he'd forgotten the sauce and said it was because we didn't have any. reminded him of the tomato shaped dispenser we'd bought on holiday, and opened the SAUCE cupboard and there was half a bottle sitting right at the FRONT.

i think saffymums' idea of night out and GIANT glass of wine will be just the thing.

yes yes, i can take a chill pill. but i feel like shoving it. ughghghg am so sick of ignoring, cheerfully smiling, saying 'ah, what harm can be done? tis only our best crystal wot wot' and wafting around in a general stepford wifely manner. for the last few days i have been a pain to live with. i concede.

good tip kiwinat. i might develop amnesia.

i definitely need a little pampering. perhaps a spa day. perhaps a night out with the girls. a trip to town to indulge one of my hobbies... will i get it??? no farquing way. will have to settle for slumping in front of grand designs with some chateaux collapso.