My mother is very critical of how I'm managing separation from my ex. A large part of me knows she is very critical in general and my mistake was talking to her.
But she has made me doubt some things.
Until we have a financial settlement our finances are still linked. I am returning to work after many years and he is helping practically and financially, including using annual leave allowance to cover some of the school holidays to keep childcare costs down.
He is not at all complaining about this but communication isn't great. Its like talking to a stroppy teenager at times. So combined with criticism from my mum it feels like maybe I am asking too much.
She cannot see why I expect him to be helping me work when he pays maintenance. That he shouldn't have to use his leave to provide childcare. I think long term it is of benefit to us all that I earn money again.
I guess it's not her concern what we are doing. But is it being demanding to try to jointly work out school pickups, holiday leave etc? It's all still very new.
Interested to know how others managing an amicable (ish) separation approach practicalities of childcare.