Thank you and freedom at last

[doyliewoo]

I have been a long time lurker and occasional poster here for years.

After an 8 relationship with a possible narcissist and most definite womaniser! I am finally moving out tomorrow with my daughter. 6 months ago I was in such a dark place, I was devastated that my relationship was over, drinking too much and I thought my life was in ruins.....I really couldn’t see any light at the end of the tunnel.

Fast forward to today... the excessive drinking has stopped, we have found a lovely place where we will be happy, I am actually excited!!!

I had a realisation today... I am free! free from wondering where he is or who hes with, free from the doubts and insecurity, free from not feeling good enough, free to make my own decisions about my life and move forward. Free to only do things that make me and my daughter happy and fulfilled. Free from gas lighting and mind games, free from the urge to snoop and check....it's all over now :)

I really couldnt have done this without the wonderful advice, stories and experiences of all you lovely ladies on here. To know and understand that others are going through similar experiences and coming away from it stronger and happy has been my saviour and has kept me going.

So thank you mumsnet ladies! have a and on me x

All the best wishes for your new life!!
The feeling of relief is great I know!!

Congratulations Doyliewoo and best wishes for your new life of freedom and excitement.

Nothing compares to being free of a horrible relationship.

Congratulations Doyliewoo! Your story gives me hope as I'm just starting the process of divorcing my EA and narc H. All best wishes for your new life and FREEDOM!!

Congratulations!! Enjoy every minute of your new found freedom That's one thing about horrible relationships, once you leave you really appreciate everything so much more. Good luck and have fun

Congratulations OP! That's a great post

Well done OP

Wow how exciting, congratulations I'm really very pleased for you. You're post is giving me hope, enjoy your new life/home and freedom.

Congratulations on your freedom :) Make sure you spoil yourself (nothing bad though!) properly now!

Well done OP

Congratulations and here's to your lovely new life.
Hope you and your daughter are happy in your new home.

I'm very happy for you

That's great!
Happy New life! Xx

Well done!! I escaped my narc ex and I will give you some advice.

Make sure you cut contact down to a bare minimum when you have left. Text messages about kid stuff only and don't respond to anything emotional.

When you open that door to your new place relish that sense of freedom you feel. I still think about that moment 6 years on.

Wishing you and your dd all the best xxx

I remember that moment 20+ years later! We hardly had any furniture and no carpets but it was BLISS.

Congratulations doylie, it's not easy but you did it. Blardy well done

Seconding the advice to keep ongoing contact down to the very bare bones... then cut it down some more. NEVER let him know how you really feel about anything. Be bland like a plank of wood.

Wow, your thread made me well up. Mega congrats on what you have done. Your life, and your daughters life will Judy keep getting better now.
Freedom!