My ex always want to see kids when it suitable for him

[Babli1980]

Hi I am new to mumnet....I got 2 children from my 1st marriage and
Both kids seeing their dad everyother weekend...I always drop kids to him
And he drop back them to me the way we agreed when we got separate
But my ex always want to see kids when he want ...I always inform him
About kids holidays so if he wants to spend time with them he can plan but never happened he always tell at last minute that kids go him I always stuck in between as I don't want my boys feel that I am stopping them to see their dad but I still feel some time as my ex still want that I do things the way he wants feeling fed up with all this. Don't know when it going to end.

You have to practise saying NO very firmly, without a sorry or an explanation. 'That doesn't work for me" is what I used to say then remain silent and repeat, endlessly, until the ex got the message. It took a while as he was used to people pleaser moi.
If you behave like a doormat you get treated like one.
Time to get your big girl pants on and behave like a queen.

It's up to your ex to know when the school holidays are and to coordinate with you when he has the DCs.
Most schools now have their term dates and other dates on their website. You are not his secretary and your not his mum.
If your ex lets your DCs down then that is your ex's fault. You can make people not be selfish, and you can't make them a good parent.

Just state that's not going to work for me and repeat I've started doing this with my ex he was actually startled I stood up to him

Its never going to end. Selfish people will always continue to do selfish things. I'm sorry but that's the truth. Make your own arrangements your priority and don't rely on him, you will continually be disappointed if you do.

Thnx everyone for ur suggestions I am trying to stick with my own decisions and learning to say no...thnx once again 😊😊😊