So I need some advice please....
STBXH left 8 months ago saying he didn't think monogamy was for him (yes really!) after 15 years together and 2DC now aged 8 and 6. At the time I was shocked and thought we'd been working through our rough patch, since then have found out he was caught shagging a colleague at the office Christmas do three years ago and since leaving he's hooked up with a 25 year old different colleague (he's 40).
So I've lawyered up, we go to court on Tuesday to work out finances which has taken quite a lot of effort to do (for someone who doesn't believe in monogamy he sure doesn't want to get divorced - he ignored the first set of papers and had to be personally served with the second set. He flannelled his way through three mediation sessions without giving away any of his financial info). Now he's been forced to reveal some of his financial position (he has seven different companies - I only knew about one - and three more bank accounts that I didn't know about).
He is really ridiculously nice to my face, despite being a backstabbing arsehole so I'm not sure how I'm going to get through the court appearance, I'm also not sure what to expect. He hasn't lodged any objections to my financial paperwork but I'm not sure what will happen on the day, whether he will be amicable or a total raving maniac (he states he looks after the children 50% of the time in his legal papers - it's actually 27 hours a week and when I challenged him on it he said the overnights when they stay with me don't count because they're asleep). How do I deal with that level of crazy in a calm way? Also annoyingly I'm not at the angry stage of grief anymore, I'm just sad so I'm worried I'm going to roll over too easily as I just want it to be over now.
Any thoughts or advice gratefully received, TIA.