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Has spending time apart helped your relationship

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nonameinspiration · 19/02/2017 12:55

Not like a trial separation - as in spending less time together within the home:relationship etc. I think it would help dp and I but not sure if it's a sticking plaster or a positive move?

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noego · 19/02/2017 15:38

The peeps on here will need more information if you want a response. I'll bump for you xx

Kikikaakaa · 19/02/2017 15:42

When I see people on here who spend practically all their spare time together, don't have hobbies or social lives with friends I will admit I am always sceptical whether this really is a happy and healthy way to live. It was not good for me in other relationships. I have friends and hobbies and family and just PJ's on the sofa times that I don't want to share with someone ALL the time.
Time apart and own interests are really good for anyone, in any kind of relationship. It has to be a good balance though because too much time can just create a distance. You need to feel that you had your space and enjoyed yourself, and then enjoy coming home to see your partner too. Equally joint interests are important. More details may help!

TheNaze73 · 19/02/2017 17:16

I'm with kikak

I think it's unhealthy to spend all your time together.

Just weird to even want to

fallenempires · 19/02/2017 17:29

I think it's healthy to be able to spend time apart pursuing own interests/hobbies,but it is equally important to have time together especially if children are thrown into the mix.

TheCakes · 19/02/2017 17:33

I think it's OK to spend your time together if you have shared interests. If you are just mooching around in front of the telly, it's got to be pretty crap.
I'm in no lace to offer relationship advice at the moment, but I reckon being your own person, not joined at the hip, is always a good thing.

LesisMiserable · 19/02/2017 17:56

Its very subjective isnt it. My brother and his wife are still besotted with each other after 25 years and apart from work, spend every moment together through choice , though they do socialise a lot with others but always together - they are a rock solid unit. Me, I would be claustrophobic but I still envy their relationship.

Kikikaakaa · 19/02/2017 18:07

I think it really takes a certain personality type to enjoy being together that much. And you both have to feel the same way. I don't have it. I hate not getting time to myself

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