My husband has been away with work and returned home today. We had a lovely day with our children but I was feeling a little neglected. Anytime I was chatting to him, he'd be on his phone, watching tv, generally interested. If I asked him about his trip or anything about him, he'd be very chatty.
Tonight once our kids were in bed, we sat down to a takeaway. I went into the kitchen to clean the plates and he came in and hugged me and told me he loved me. I said to him I felt he'd been a bit distant with me. He lost it and started getting annoyed at me for "ruining his night" by starting this. Just FYI, I didn't want to start anything and didn't even think it was a massive deal but just one of those things I think you should be able to talk about in a relationship. I got upset with him for flying off the handle and about 5 minutes later, he apologised but he went on to explain why it made him angry. I sort of tutted at one of his reasons (which I now can't remember for the life of me, but it was a complete cop out). He then got angry again and said "don't huff and puff at me".
As a bit of background info, if we're ever having a disagreement and he's talking, if I tut, shake my head, or react in any way shape or form while he's talking, he gets extremely upset by this. These are all things that he does when he disagrees with me and I'm pretty sure are just very normal reactions when someone is saying things you don't agree with. It's as if I've just to stand their without any expression and listen to him saying things that are entirely redicoulous. (I've tried to do that and it's honestly pretty much impossible).
I've told him I find this very controlling and upsetting as it's as if I'm not allowed to have any emotion at all.
I'm now downstairs sleeping on the couch while he's quite happily off to bed upstairs. I feel like shit. Is this me? Am I the problem here?