Bit of history.
I have a twin sister a few years ago we had a big falling out due to her drug issues and then threatening me and my children which i believed she would carry out if she had the opportunity. I went NC for years, in that timw she was sectioned a few timea, took overdoses. On one occasion i got a call from intensive care as they didnt expect her to last the night and she asked for me. I went but regretted it, she got better.
Recently my step dad had a big birthday and we had a meal out.
I attended and my sister was also there which is the first time ive seen her for 2 years. Prior to this we had a group chat for arranging the bday pressie.
She has started txting me which ive ignored some and brief reply to others.
2 of my children had hospital appts this week and today i get a txt from sister saying about them and whats happening. She knew the results and action plans, the only family member who knows is my mum. I txt asking her not to pass my info onto sis as its mine to choose who i give it to. Shes gone batshit saying she wont ask how we are and she cant do anything etc and generally playing the victim.
Am wrong ? Surely as an adult i get to chose who i tell what and its not my mums place.
So fed up of getting left out so sis can be invited to things and because shes alone gets presidence over me and my family like i should suck up her behaviour towards me and forgive and forget which i seem to have done all my life beforegoing NC.