I find it so hard to talk to dh so I thought I would have a moan here as it is the only place I can talk. Basically I sometimes wonder how and why I put up with him. He's not violent(well very rarely now) but can be verbally aggressive and intimidating. He is very intolerent and selfish. He does work hard but when he is tired he is irritable and unpredictable. He does not seem to want to spend time with ds but then says he is the centre of his life. I try and get him involved but then later on he will have a go at me for expecting him to look after ds. He moans and nags constantly at me. When he gets him he has to moan at something. The house could be perfect but if I slightly burn the chips then he has to moan about it. He never gives anything positive back and I just feel worn down. I am used to being given praise, support, encouragement, etc in my job and then although I get this from ds in his own way I do need it from an adult. He wants to relax but still has not got the idea that when you have a baby you can't just stop, they need attention, feeding, changing, etc even at the weekend and on holiday. I feel I never get a chance to relax.