Abusive ex witholding money through csa

[Littlefrogletx]

My abusive ex is playing the system.
He would threaten to withhold maintenance, so it was dealt with through csa.
He was instructed to pay on the 15th of the month.
He refuses to set up a standing order so transfers the money.
The money hasn't gone in.
I've spoken to csa and apparently he has up to 5 working days.
He knows this. He's still controlling me and being a bastard.
I asked about moving to the collect method and was told that if he pays in the 5 days they cant.
How on earth is this fair.
How can I ever break free of him laughing at me withholding money.

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I'd be furious too in your shoes. He is deliberately trying to annoy you so try not to rise to the bait. I'd try and have as little contact as possible with him for the time being. Being reasonable isn't working. He's only doing it to annoy you so be annoyed but don't let him know and just go through the procedures if he is late paying. Don't text him.

I hate how misleading CMS are- I am yet to recieve a payment 17 months after going to them. And it's on the collect service! All I get is a letter each month saying they failed to get the payment from him. It's ridiculous. When I've spoke to them all they've said is there's nothing more they can do if the money isn't in the account when they try to take it so I'll basically never get a penny.
They make out they enforce payments but it's all a load of shit.

I get paid every month. He is always dicking around trying to get them to recalculate the amount. But he has a decent job and he can't afford his alcoholism if he doesn't work. So I am fortunate. I always laugh when they ask if I want to change to a family based arrangement. He would not pay one penny if he wasn't forced to.