House or husband?

[MrsExpo]

We've been offered the opportunity to move into a house which my DH co-owns it's his brother. We could move there pretty much immediately as it's been rented out but is now vacant, and live there for the cost of our overheads. This means we could sell our own house (not mortgaged and valued at around £375k), bank the money and live very well indeed for the rest of our lives. The problem is, it's 50 miles away in an area I don't know and we've been to see it today and I really don't like it at all. DH is saying he'll move anyway, whether I go or not.

So, do I move to save my marriage, or let him go and go it alone?

I'm 63, he's 70, both retired, we have no children and this is a second marriage for both of us. Help!!!

I think you need to insist that the legal side of how/what your DH owns and it's current value and inheritance rights etc.

Then if you decide it's over you will at least know how much your total joint assets are worth. I really can't believe his attitude is so callous and black and white

Where are the deeds to the house and who's names are on the deeds?

If you don't know you can check for around £7 on the land register site.

I'd get that information first, as there is no point even thinking about it unless the house is legally set out as your dh

If you ended up staying in the area where you live and splitting from your husband who moved away, your current home was sold, and you had nearly £200,000 in your bank account to buy a home for yourself, how would you view that outcome OP? Would it be total disaster or is there some appeal in it?