Please help me see sense!!

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Long LONG time poster but terrified of being found out so have made up new account. Can't work out how to change the username thing!!

Am married with DCs and at risk of getting myself in to big shit.

I have massively developed a paralysing crush on someone. He's a friend within our social circle. But in the last year it's become a bit more chummy. Email chat, coffees etc. He's very friendly and seems to be happily engaging in a friendship with me. There is nothing he has done which is anything other than totally above board and innocent. And he categorically 100% does not fancy me.

I always thought he was attractive but since getting to know him it's turned in to this massive thing. I've constantly got butterflies, I start to shake and my heart starts to race before I see him, I can't stop thinking about him etc etc. This is proper full on teenage stuff.

Please MNers shake some sense in to me. I can't avoid him totally. But I could appear rude and cool off the friendship. Or I could just tell him straight that I'm in idiot so need to just keep my distance.

WWYD???

Just ease back on the tete a tete coffees and chats

It's not rocket science

You're all right, of course. Which is why I needed to ask.

There isn't more, no. And many less morally upstanding people than me would laugh at the fuss I'm making over what amounts to not much.

I've got bigger shit to fry than him right now. So it won't be difficult to kept myself busy and let it pass.

I'm already feeling pretty silly. Which I think is progress.

And it's certainly not about "until the next man rocks up". This wasn't something I choose or was looking for. It just was.

Of course it does leave questions about my marriage. Questions I will think through when I've calmed down.

For now thank you for your wise words. You have genuinely been a big help.