I've got no friends!! :'(

[nomates]

How do you make friends?

Since moving to a new area a few months ago, I have yet to make any friends at all. DS1 started nursery last week and all the other mums are already in groups, and I'm too shy to interrupt.

I had arranged to go to a fitness class with someone a couple of months ago, but didn't turn up because I was too shy. And I feel so guilty that she probably thinks I didn't like her, when it wasn't that.

I'm thinking about joining weightwatchers, or a fitness class, or doing some volunteering, or taking the kids to a toddler group.

What would be the 'easiest' scenario for someone really shy like me?

Nomates have just seen this thread. I am in Derby, whereabouts are you? If near Markeaton Park how about meeting up there. I have never got round to going to a Mumsnet meet-up but I'm sure people would love to see you. As others have said you have to work at it. I had no mum-mates 5 yrs ago but now have a good circle I try and see as often as poss. My children are DS1 5, DD 3 and DS2 1 so not a bad match for you...I am a lot older than you but really don't think that matters. Sorry if you feel people are looking down at you but I'm sure they're not, probably just jealous of yr youth! Post again and we'll set sthg up if u like.

I'm 23 and live in Derby too, and have children similar ages to you too, so add me to the list of possible mums to meet up with. Now you're inundated with offers lol, how can you refuse?

Hey, this is almost turning into a meet-up isn't it?

Oh, and I'm shy too sometimes, but you just have to bite the bullet. Easier said than done sometimes I know, but most of the time people are thinking about how they're coming across and paying no attention to how you're coming across.

Hey, nomates, if you end up with a Markeaton meet up, count me in! I live about 20 mins from there. I am also v shy and find it hard to make friends so sympathise. I have a dd who is 7 and a ds who is 5. Which uni are you going to? I'm an Access student at Uni of Derby.

BTW, which part of Derby are you in? I know a nice NCT group in Mickleover/Littleover and there are others.

I'm starting at Uni of Derby in September too discordia, what's it like?

Hey nomates we have loads in common.

Hi nomates (and anyone else)! There's a new meet-up thread just started for Derby in the mumsnetter meet-ups thread. I do hope you can attend. I feel awful that you're all alone, and please don't feel overwhelmed by it all.

Not sure how to link...

it did CD you great mother hen you

Easy - You now have loads of mates, I know granted we dont live round the area, but you only have to pick the phone up or text or email anyone of us and we'll arrange a meet up or a cuppa.

We that know you all think you are great, and you disability doesnt even cross our minds, some people are just narrow minded and snotty.

Altho we do object to having to make our own cuppa in your house Only joking sweetie. Call or text me anytime you know DS & your DS like to play together.

As for the others (especially Nomates) contact anyone of the moms on the Derby meet and we'll arrange a cuppa in a neutral place, one to one basis, come on gal, you know it makes sense, one of my closest mates is Madamebutterfly and we met on a web site nearly a year ago and we meet up every week now, you too could be that lucky.

We all like to make friends, especially me, I aint shy, but my job takes me around the country and I am self employed so dont have the luxury of making work friends etc, but I have made some lovely friends on here, MB, Wedgiesmum, Hulababy, Easy, Essbee, and many more who I know would help me if I called.

Just take the step and make a move, once you do you'll find the world is a great place and so is Mumsnet.

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Invite people you chat to in the playground for coffee ? I have made 2 good friends like that. I work fulltime and haven't got the time for these groups. I picked up a friend in a carpark too. Our toddlers both had tantrums in the middle of the carpark and then we went for coffee. Just go with it and SMILE.

I have to say that I too have made some good friends through MN and, being shy in unfamilar company/surroundings, it has been a great source. DH was pretty bemused when I first started using MN and especially when I agreed to meet up with people, but he is amazed that I go out and meet up with people so often. It has really helped me to be a bit more confident, and to meet people round and about with children.

nomates.. i know how you feel... we moved to a new area a few months back and i know people but they are my dh's mates... i want some of my own! have just started going to a toddler group but i am finding it hard too.... shyness is shite! i just end up feeling more lousy when i come away having bearly had a conversation with a grown up... like you say, everyone is already in a group. i'll plod on. but dont worry you're not alone... glad mn'ers have supported you here.

Hi All anyone from Mickleover or Littleover who would like to chat?