how would you interpret this convo?

[howarddonaldslithp]

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So this evening, conversation goes like this..

DH - I need to get to the doctors this week for repeat prescription.

Me - will you go one morning (knowing he's on lates this week)?

DH - no, I'll be late!

ME - How come?

DH - what? Walk all the way into (place) and back and then catch the bus to work?

So, how does his last remark come across to you? I'll explain why I'm asking once I've got your opinions as I don't want to led you in a particular direction!

Wouldn't think anything of it. His time to organise how he sees fit.

You have been that vague, I don't understand the context

Maybe he is implying that you should offer to go? Or drive him? Or saying that he can't get it this week even though he ought to. What do you think?

Totally innocuous. I have no idea what you're getting at.

Can he not go from doctors to bus stop directly?

Not a clue, but can he get a bus from (place) to work?

I'd assume he would organise himself to go another time.

Yes assume he is hinting for you to go?

What??

Ahhh ok, so, I interpret it like he's speaking to me like Im stupid! However, that is a massive trigger point for me so wanted to get some perspective to see if it's my issue or if he is a condescending twunt!

I don't see an issue from whats there either. Then it's hard without all of the information.

It reads like the doctors/chemist (whatever place is) is quite far away and he doesn't drive/have access to a car so wouldn't be able to get there and back in time to get the right bus to work?

When is he planning on going to get his prescription? Or does he want you to get it for him? Or want you to take him to get it?

Seems odd that he would need to go back home rather than straight to work. I agree it sounds like a hint for you to go, or give him a lift if applicable.

On the face of it, you're being over sensitive. However it completely depends on your history and how it was said. Not sure anyone here can make a proper judgement on it, with the example given.

entirely depends on the tone and intent.

I'll get it for him on Wednesday cos he really needs his tablets. TBH it's just the way it was said, but yeah, appreciate I can't get that across on here.

If he said it in an exasperated way, tutting and rolling his eyes then yes he could be being condescending. But at face value just in what you have written, I wouldn't read anything into it.

Probably a bit of both. My trigger + his belief that everyone else is wrong and he is always right!

I see the 'what? ...... and then ......?' I've added in my head 'are you stupid?' At the end of the sentence..... like I said, bit of both I reckon!

So the result is that you get them for him?

Seriously, surely he is able to get himself to the doctors and get his own prescription? What would happen if you couldn't get there?

Well another bloody trigger there or me sense of responsibility. I just always bloody slip into that role but really he should effing get them himself!