DH is in a bad mood because he is aching. This (the aching) has been going on for a long time with no real cure found so far. This morning he has clearly been 'off' with me. There is an atmosphere but aside from that he asked me to find his phone for him (because he was aching) which took ages to find, then proceeded to ask me to bring him more things (toast, coffee, tv remote)-- some of which I would have done anyway but I felt he made a point of not thanking me.
DD (uni age) is visiting for the weekend and were excitedly talking about going for a walk and perhaps a pub lunch afterwards. He said with an exaggerated sigh 'no one ever asks what I want to do'... I said we knew he'd like a pub lunch with local friends and if he didn't want to do a long walk we could change plans. Turns out he wants to do something different which would involve sitting all day which is not what we want to do. I'm not sure if there is room for compromise but he seems determined to ruin my plans.
He snapped at me a few times for other reasons. He said something about the jumper I was wearing, like a sarcastic 'is that jumper permanently on' when I'm wearing it because it's my around the house jumper, but a very nice one, fair isle pattern, thick and woolly (and I might add, from an expensive shop). I got defensive ( like I just did in that sentence!) and he says he didn't like the fact I fell asleep in it last night.
I confronted him when we were alone and asked him why he was behaving like that and he said that he was upset that I (I'll paraphrase) wasn't trying hard enough to make him happy. I.e., bringing him a cup of coffee in the morning wasn't me being nice, it was that I'd be making coffee 'for myself' and he was an afterthought. A few other things came out but my blood was boiling by this point. He's on a new pain medication and I had googled it to read the side effects, he got furious with me and said his illness (or not, no real diagnosis) and medication was none of my business. I'd secretly hoped that 'behaving like a total arse' would be a side effect but it's not.
He's behaved like this in the past but I thought it was getting better. Would it be a good idea to call the GP and say I was concerned about his mental state? Or is he just being an abusive arsehole? I feel like 'outing' him on this behaviour. But it might be that I should try harder...I really don't want to!