Am i being taken advantage of?

[isobel79]

So its 1026am. My sister and my cousin went out last night leaving there kids with me. They have two each. I have one of my own. They decided to stay at my cousins as there wouldnt be enough "bed space" (me and the kids are at my sisters)!!! AIBU to think that they should have least come back at a decent time this morning. They didnt even as if i had plans today. Over the past few months ive noticed that my sister is a "taker" if i ask her to do ANYTHING for me its always a problem yet if she asks me to look after her kids, stay overnight if she has a night shift or if she needs me to stop with her kids for couple hours i never say no. She drives i drive but dont have a car. If i come to my sisters i get a cab she would not offer to collect us. Im just so pissed off with her. She really does use me and its been going on for years. She isnt interested in anything i do. Ive been having issues with my LO dad. We saw him yesterday so that he could spend time with our son. She didnt even ask how it went. If it wasn't for my.nieces i wouldn't even bother.

Im home now and crying i cant believe ive just been treated like this. Not even an offer of food. I cant believe it. How can u be preparing lunch for your kods and dont even ask if i or my son want anything

How nasty did you get a lift in the end?

Sod practicing saying no start practicing fuck off

Well, I think you know what to say now if she asks you to babysit again. You might think the world of her kids but she doesn't seem to return the sentiment. Cut your losses and focus on the people around you who will care for you and support you.
So sorry it wound up like this - there are some truly entitled people around!

Yes i got a lift it was kinda like oh why didn't u ask before i tool my coat off thag was my cousins response thanks all im just a fool for being taken for a ride

You need to start saying no to them. And don't apologise, just no, that doesn't work for me.

Don't be guilted into anything or do it because something's come up at short notice, or someone else let them down. Just no.

So what are you going to do about it?

Keep my distance tbh she needs to re-evaluate and think that the world doesn't revolve around her. I am very very pissed off still. Thanks for all the advice

Tell her. Tell her you are upset about being left out, about not being offered food, about her not being willing to help you out.
Then start setting boundaries. You only babysit if/when it's convenient to you, you're not getting a bus to get to her place to look after her kids, she can pick you up. Or you babysit at yours if that's more convenient. But don't babysit at all until she's shown that she'll put herself out for you. If you want to see the children, you can always suggest meeting up in the daytime, seeing her DC doesn't have to take the form of you babysitting.

I wouldn't bother telling her that she's upset you. Such people never think they're in the wrong. Either she'll think you're crazy or she'll get defensive because she knows you've got a point.

Just distance yourself, stand up for yourself, people treat you how you allow them to treat you.

Good luck op. I used to be like you, but not anymore.

Thank you so much ive thought that just gonna keep myself to myself!!!!