We don't have any joint savings, we don't have kids and I am not working. I moved to UK after we got married. I am quite qualified but we had to travel for family commitments and I had to take a break. dh managed his work remotely.
He has given me credit cards for groceries, and says I can use them to buy whatever I want (including other stuff like clothes, etc). I find it strange that we have no investment or savings together. He has very good job and good income. He says I should tell him when I need money and he will transfer it to my account. He spends money on going out with me, travel, gifts, etc. But seems to have problem with a joint account with me.
I tried to talk to him a couple of times, and he doesn't understand the issue. I am trying to find a job but not getting success, I don't want to depend on him financially permanently but it would be thoughtful of him to have an account with some money in it (don't mean it to be his main or salary account). It makes me feel he doesn't trust me completely. He told me in the beginning we need to have a joint bank account, at that time we were travelling and had some fights. On return he never mentioned the joint again. I feel he is cautious of things not working between us. What do you ladies or gents think? AIBU for wanting some saving together? Thanks for reading :)